Thanks Maarten van Doorn for taking the time to write back. I have your piece on my reading list. Will get to it soon.

I think this lines captures the approach. I used this catchy phrase more as springboard than focusing on the phrase itself. I want people to challenge how they approach relationships and not just react to this or any simplified version.

We must actively design our social environment. People can’t influence us if we don’t ‘let’ them — that’s the importance of free will. Relationships are a two-way street — we should reflect on how we influence others too. Yes, we must surround ourselves with people who will be good inspiration, but also those who would challenge us––even if they don’t fall into the mold of what we define success or who we want to become. We can learn from everyone if we open our mind and don’t judge people (we all have ‘good’ and ‘bad’ sides).

Thanks again for your time. Looking forward to enjoying your piece.


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