Thanks Brenda Ammon for your thorough response.
Indeed, vulnerability is critical to realize how your behavior affects others and make adjustments or bigger changes.
I understand the confusion but being kind is anything but a passive role. Only but understanding who we are, we can challenge our emotions and behaviors.
Self-compassion is about accepting who we are (flaws included). Stopping self-criticism means not being harsh with oneself but does NOT mean stop doing soul searching and improving our mindsets and behaviors.
Accepting one’s flaws is the first step towards acting about it. In the example you shares, it seems that the individual is NOT taking ownership and doing anything about it.
When you accept who you are, you stop using your flaws as an excuse, and act on it.
That’s when you take charge of your life as I wrote here last week.