Thanks for your thoughtful feedback.
I believe in some of the points we are talking about the same. When you say “being human… being emotionally aware… being transparent…showing empathy…” all those are characteristics that I consider to be part of being a vulnerable leader.
Where I disagree with you is that being vulnerable will affect someone’s ability to be a good leader. (I cannot provide an opinion on military leaders though, as it goes beyond my area of expertise).
Rene Brown, author of “How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead” has done extensive research on this topic. She mentions two myths about vulnerability. “The first is that vulnerability is weakness. The second is that it’s optional.” “…vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s probably the most accurate measure of our individual courage.”
If a leader simply shows vulnerability but is not being truly vulnerable, then he/she might be faking it or using vulnerability to manipulate people.
Enjoy your weekend!